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Ahh! I'm Single Again!
What do you do when the relationship you thought was heading for the stars, ends up heading down the drain? I never thought I would have to get back out there and find another person, another person I could spend the rest of my life with.
At first, I sat at home and continued as if nothing had changed, hoping that she would realize how much she missed me, and hoping she would come running back through the door. I imagined that we would jump in each other's arms and say to each other, "Oh what were we thinking? We will never be separated again!" I figured out the hard way that she wasn't feeling that way when one of our mutual friends informed me she was going out every weekend and some weeknights with friends, and had already been out on a few dates.
Of course this was a blow to the old ego.
I pulled myself together, and realized I was going to have to move on.
The Bar Scene:
Oh the bar scene. This is always a good place to go because it gives you an opportunity to get out with your friends. You don't have to go to a bar with the intention of meeting your next girlfriend or boyfriend. Use it as a means to get out of the house, and leave all thoughts of your past relationship at home. Someone always said that the opposite sex can tell if you are "looking for someone," and that can be a turn off. Just go out, be yourself, and who knows, you might run into someone you enjoy talking to, even if it is only for a few hours.
The University:
Here is a great way to meet people! Enroll in a class to get out of your house. You don't have to take "Modern Day Economics Applied" to fulfill your goals, just enroll in something you might find interesting, whether it is an art class, photography, karate, or Calculus 4. The bonds you form with other students could lead to new friendships, and opportunities to meet the next person of your dreams!
The Sports League:
If you are an active person, sign up for a local area sports league! Find out what leagues are available through your friends, workplace, or local Chamber of Commerce. Signing up for a sporting league, even if you're no good at the sport, will give you another chance to meet people where you both have a common connection and allow you to form a relationship as friends before you ask them out on a date.
Online Dating:
Online dating is a very common way for people to meet these days. Long term relationships are being formed daily through this easy means of meeting people. Sign up for a site which you find is easy to use, and has many members in your area. Don't feel obligated to only talk to one person at a time, until you find a connection with one particular person. The internet is one of the easiest ways to "Play the field," while having minimal impact to your ego and emotions if someone doesn't respond to you. Filling out all of the details available on the site is definitely to your advantage. The more information about yourself available to the other members viewing your profile, the more likely it is for them to contact you first!
Church:
Church has to be one of the oldest ways to meet someone new. If you haven't joined a church in your area, take a few months and visit a different one every Sunday until you find one you like, then start participating in church activities provided by that church. Go to the adult Bible school, or the like, and interact with the people to form bonds. Who knows, some of the other members might be parents who think you would be perfect for their son or daughter. The more people you meet and know, the more opportunity there is for success.
The Grocery Store:
Hey! You like to eat, and everyone does it! Check out who is at the grocery store next time you are there. Rather than barging in front of someone to grab that 4 pack of butter, and rushing through the line to get the experience over with as quickly as possible, start up a conversation with them about how you need the butter for a special birthday cake for your son or daughter, and how much they love it or something. Ask them if they have any suggestions about what kind of butter to use, salted or unsalted, or a particular brand they know of which is perfect for baking. Talk to the people waiting in line at the register! Do not go to the vegetable isle, pick up a cucumber and make obscene gestures. Just be yourself, but be more outgoing!
I have done most of the above, and have found tons of new friends, and have been on several dates as a result. There isn't a best way to meet someone, because it is all dependent on what kind of person you are. Who knows, you might be playing Space Invaders online with people around the world, and meet someone that way!
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