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Friends with benefits. *Comments!*
I agree and disagree with the fwb article. I feel that in order for two people to start a relationship, they must be friends first and foremost. The fact that some people are out there just to find fwb, is almost insane. In fact I have been in a few of those types of relationships, and while it was fun while it lasted, they never went much beyond a couple of weeks.
When I first became sexually active I was 17, but I lost my viginity to an awesome friend whom I had known since the 5th grade. It was ok, but made the following weeks awkward.
Then he met and married, a friend of mine from a differant school. Not to much later I met up with them for a visit, like friends do, and was astounded to learn that he wasn't treating her very well.
I was shocked and down right disgusted. It made me very thankful that our relationship didn't last.
I am sure that most everyone has had this type of experience at somepoint in their lifes. It really makes me think twice before getting involved with a good friend.
There's an old proverb; "If you sleep in a stable - You smell like S#!*", and I believe that applies to every aspect of life.
In response to the "Friends with Benefits" article, I must say that it amazes me how people are so stunned after they've dropped every moral they've ever learned for a mere hour or so of physical pleasure. By no means am I a "Holy-Roller" of any type, but one learns (the hard way) that anyone so centered around their own personal satisfaction isn't much going to care what you truly think or feel about them - they have one agenda and they're it!
As a 40 y.o. male that's been around the block once or twice, I can honestly say that if I were given the choice of one night of the best sex I've ever encountered OR a year (or more) with a woman that truly defined a meaningful relationship, I would choose the latter of the two KNOWING that the best sex two people can ever have is with someone that truly knows, understands, and desires to give their partner exactly what they want and how they want it and the partner does the same!
I really wouldn't consider this just my opinion, I find it more along the lines of factual, although I'm sure there are a handful that would disagree. None the less, it's the least of my intentions to insult or offend anyone with my reply.
Thanks for reading.
Your opinion is honorable and if it offends anyone, that is a maturity issue for them to deal with. Now, here is my opinion. For those people who do not have time for a full blown relationship or the dating scene, I think that having a friend with benefits is a good way to test the waters. It is not always a hit and run situation and sometimes those encounters can and do turn into relationships. If both people are looking for the same things, that's great. Some people are looking for companionship, not just a self satifiying romp in the hay. For those who have busy lives and still want to feel like a human being, it's about just having someone to hold them or just hang out with. It's not always about sex. I work a full time job and go to school full time. That takes up alot of time throughout the course of a week and I feel that asking someone else to make those kinds of sacrifices with their time would be selfish on my part.
With that in mind, people in similar situations such as that, could be friends with benefits and could possibly have a better chance of becoming more than that because they are both putting there real lives on hold to better the overall life that they live. So taking the time, as little as it may be, is equally as honorable. I too, would much rather have a lasting relationship. But you know as well as I, we don't always get what we want.In all honesty, I would much rather have someone to hold and be with once in while, than have noone, all the time. Sometimes, love is found when you quit looking or your looking the other way. We have all had a bad relationship at one time or another. No matter how tough a man thinks he is, or how independant a woman wants to be, it all boils down to one thing...At one time or another,People need people. I guess I look at friends with benefits as a good thing, especially if the friend remains after the sex is gone. This is my opinion and I don't expect everyone to respect that, but know that I respect yours and no offense was taken.
Lawrence69
I think FWB is a great idea!!! And what a great article!! So well written!! It completely described every situation I have been in regarding FWBs.
First of all, with all of the diseases out there, do you not think that sleeping with people you know provides a good option? I do. I have had several relationships that have evolved from FWBs. In fact if anyone reading this feels the same way I do, then maybe we can develop something. Friends first of course. And benefits later :). So to all of you haters out there, just because you may not have had the best experience with FWBs, maybe you should choose your friends more wisely.
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